I've been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately. There is one specific forgiveness tool I love. It is a traditional Hawaiian practice called Ho’oponopono. In Hawaiian, this word means "correction." (although I bet it means many things that the Internet didn't tell me.)
We aren't doing the long, sacred traditional forgiveness practice here. We are doing the modified practice that a Hawaiian woman brought to the United Kingdom.
Here is the format:
I forgive you
I love you
Sooooo put something you want to forgive yourself for into the format. I'll do it as an example:
I want to forgive myself for using my hands too much and making them inflamed.
I'm sorry I get mad at you for using your hands.
I forgive you for forgetting that they need extra care.
Thank you for noticing when they hurt and changing your behavior.
I love you
Play around with it. If somebody else was involved in what happened, plug yourself into this little template and then plug them into the template.
And an extra note: forgiveness is really freaking hard. If you find it hard to forgive yourself for something, try using this format to forgive yourself for not being able to forgive. That's a thing!
You are awesome,